I'm a little late getting going on the obligatory January, "new year's" post this year but there's been a lot to think about for me for the upcoming year.
For me it had a lot to do with reflecting back to where I was during the holidays 2012 and new years of 2013 which was dealing with a separation and living alone for the first time. The holidays were not fun for me in 2012, so 2013 didn't start off that great either. I had my family and some friends but for all intents and purposes, I had to work this shit out on my own.
In February, the unexpected happened......I met someone. We went on a first date, then a second, then next thing you know a relationship began to bloom. I put the brakes on it a few times, fear can really screw with your mind so we took things very slowly but by the time this year's holidays were rolling around we're both all in.
We had started living together, and we celebrated our first holidays together in 2013. We have each met the parents, and things are good there. I got a promise ring from Chris for Christmas, which (for those of you that don't know what those are) is basically a promise of committment without actually getting engaged since we're not quite at that point yet.
For us, 2014 is about letting go of the past for good (I hope to finalize my divorce in a few months) and for he and I to move towards making a future for ourselves. We both still want children (even though I am a tad over 40) so that is something that is important to us. Hopefully that will happen for us and if it doesn't, perhaps adoption is in our future.
Either way, I'm not afraid of the future anymore. For a long time I was and living that way makes all parties involved so unhappy. I know that whatever happens, I'm finally with the person I'm supposed to be with and 2014 looks bright!